Category Archives: child

Moms Make The Best Employees

In the few days since my son’s birth I have learned to multitask in ways I did not even know existed. I can do things one handed, often left handed (I was unaware I could be ambidextrous). I thought my daughter was a handful. I was very wrong. Two children, sixteen months apart, is the challenge of a lifetime. A challenge I am very ecstatic to take on.
Aside from multitasking, and functioning without proper limbs most of the time, I have also learned how to prioritize, act calmly under pressure, and field multiple calls while attempting to complete a third task in the background.
I realize I am the perfect candidate for most jobs. Now, I don’t mean me personally, but mothers like me. You do not need multiple children. Just one will suffice to teach you most of the above. However, multiples turn you into a pro overnight.
I know nowadays most mothers are in fact members of the work force. But for those returning to work after an extended period of time there is some stigma attached to having had that work gap. Honestly, just the aforementioned skills alone make these women more than capable to maintain offices, and pursue most other desk jobs. And what they don’t know, they can easily learn. In fact, most stay at home moms I know have more office skills than some executive secretaries.
So what is the big deal? Why are these women shunned in the work force so often? Have you experienced this?

Child Ban? OK Sometimes

I have been reading all the debates about small children being banned from some restaurants and other private establishments in recent days. I have two small children, a sixteen months old, and a five day old. Honestly, I kind of agree with the decrees.
A lot of parents are terribly disgruntled, but you have to stop and think about the non-parents. Or the parents who are out on their own. When my husband and I go out on our date nights, it is our little private escape. And lets face it, we are mostly escaping the kids. Don’t get me wrong, we love our children, but once in a while we like adult time. So I do not want to go to dinner and hear children crying and screaming.
There are certain places children just should not be. From a non-parents point of view, the list is perhaps on the long side, but they are entitled to their quiet time as well. I mean, that is why they most likely don’t have children. So before you pack up junior to hit up the fancy sushi joint that just opened down the street, think of everyone else at the establishment as well. It is not selfish to want some quiet time, especially if having children was not your choice to begin with. If it was, then you probably went to great lengths to get someone to watch them for the evening, so you don’t want to have to watch someone else’s.
What do you think? Should kids be allowed everywhere?

Am I Neglecting My Daughter?

It has been four days since I gave birth to my son. As I am sitting up at three in the morning feeding him, I realize I am missing my daughter. Granted it has been less than a week, I feel as if I have abandoned her. At first I thought it was just me being hormonal, but then hearing my husband echo my sentiments in that he feels he is abandoning his newborn son, I felt a little more justified.
My husband has always been my daughter’s favorite parent. She is a complete daddy’s little girl. But I still had special routines with her that provided us with quality mommy daughter time. We took our walks in the mornings, we ate our snacks together, we had bath time, and bed time. Since my little Ducky was born I have only spent a handful of minutes with my daughter. Is this how it is going to be from now on? She gets me second tier only if her younger brother doesn’t immediately need me? I should hope not.
Is my husband never going to have more than a few minutes with his son? I am sure several years from now this will in fact change, and both kids will have both parents all the time. But for now, I feel as though my daughter is getting replaced (which I hope is not how she is feeling). I am optimistic that all the extra attention my husband has been giving her makes up for any lost time with mommy.
Did you feel this way when having a second child?

P.S. That is an actual photo of my son.